Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

S21E17: How To Be Detached in Dating Yet Still Open For A Relationship w/ Sabrina Bendory

Tue, 09 Dec 2025

Being detached doesn't mean that you don't care or give up on dating. But it does mean that you know your worth and aren't going to settle for less than treatment because you got attached to someone or the idea of a relationship working out. We're joined with guest Sabrina Bendory for our Season 21 finale to discuss the power of detachment – through her own story and those of her clients – and how this subtle shift can help you reclaim your agency when dating. We discuss navigating ambiguity in dating in a way that frees you from anxiety, how to take control of what's in your control when dating (and detach from the rest), and ways you can practice micro-surrendering without surrendering your need for a healthy, fulfilling relationship.

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#brunchtalk: Why Being Single DOESN'T Suck During The Holidays (And the Best Ways To Meet People This Time of Year)

Sun, 07 Dec 2025

Hot take: The holidays are actually the best time to be single. Between holiday parties, so many events, and everyone feeling merry, there are SO many opportunities to meet new people, reconnect with friends, and just enjoy December. We're discussing some of our favorite ideas for friend group activities, dates (early on or with a partner) and masturdates (i.e dates you can do on your own). We also talk about how to motivate yourself when you're not feeling festive and what to do if you don't have a network/ friends in your area. Enjoy!

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S21E16: Inside A Man's Journey To Becoming Emotionally Available & Ready For A Relationship

Tue, 02 Dec 2025

We're giving you an authentic, raw and rare male perspective on Dateable—that of a single British man in his 40s, who’s done the inner work to finally become emotionally available and ready for a committed relationship… after a long chapter of global thrill-seeking, temptation, hedonism and personal escape. Join us as we talk to Phil about his journey – how he realized he was hiding from intimacy and how he started to carve a path out. We discuss the balance needed in your lifestyle to be ready for a relationship, the ways his social life has changed and where he's meeting people now, and what he's done to confront some of the behaviors he knows are getting in his way (and continues to do as it's still an evolving process!)

If this resonates, feel free to reach out to Phil @philwilkinson811 (per his request!)

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#brunchtalk: Is This Weird To Do In Dating?

Sun, 30 Nov 2025

Have you ever questioned if something you were doing or saying would be perceived as odd when dating? We're breaking down two instances that have come up recently – and if the reactions warranted the efforts. We're discussing how things can be perceived especially when talking on dating apps, what to do to navigate a situation that feels a little off despite good intentions, and why some actions aren't always perceived the way you'd think they would be when dating.

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S21E15: Grateful For Modern Dating (Yes, Really) (Plus A BIG Announcment)

Tue, 25 Nov 2025

Happy Thanksgiving all! First off, we're grateful for YOU but we wanted to do a little pre-thanksgiving gratitude to put us all into the thankful spirit. Because despite the many challenges in modern dating, there actually is a lot to be grateful when we think about how much we're developing into the type of partners we want to be. We discuss 7 ways you can feel gratitude even when dating is hard, how to appreciate all the moments along the way, and our own personal things we are grateful for this year.

Plus we unveil something SO COOL we've been working on and can't wait to share with you. Enjoy!

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